Accountability is Sexaaay ;)

Accountability is Sexaaay 😉 

We’ve all been there. You planned this get together WEEKS ago, but as the event comes closer, more and more “YES!” RSVPs turn into “maybes”, “no”s, or worst of all – just don’t show up when they said they were going to. You’re left with four extra seats at the table, more snacks than you can eat, and a sinking feeling that whatever you planned wasn’t good enough to entice your friends to come. 

Now let’s flip this scenario around for a sec. Because we’ve all been on the OTHER side of this scenario, too. You said yes to that one friend, but when the time comes, you’re too tired, you totally forgot, or maybe you got a last-minute offer to do something a little more exciting. You send a quick apology text saying you can’t make it and promise yourself you’ll make it up to them soon. 

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Most likely, we’ve ALL been on each side of this scenario. We rarely have bad intentions when we bail on plans and don’t get me wrong, sometimes it’s necessary, but even though we all know it, sometimes we need to be reminded: nobody likes a flaky friend. 

And guys, I have BEEN that flaky friend before. 

Here’s what I’ve learned: let your yes be yes and let your no be no. When you don’t show up, you’re giving yourself the reputation of being unreliable and untrustworthy. I know this sounds harsh but I’m just being real with y’all.

When it comes down to it, your word is your bond! It’s how people know if you’re trustworthy or not. 

The good thing is – you don’t have to say yes if you don’t want to or are unable to! If I don’t have time to do a certain project, I will be honest about that and ask if we can partner the next month. It’s so much better to wait until you are ready rather than risking it falling through. It’s taken me a while to get there, and I’m still working on it. But I’ve learned that it’s just SO much better to only commit to what I can than overcommitting.

This year in The Sassy Club, this has been a huge thing for us! We are trying to create a culture of accountability so that we can all grow into more trustworthy friends. For example, when you RSVP “yes” to an event we are looking forward to connecting with you! If you cannot attend, please RSVP “no” so another sassy mama has the opportunity to have the experience. 

Pay attention to what your mind and body are telling you.

If you’re looking ahead and you know you’re gonna be exhausted that night, take care of yourself AND those around you by saying no this time. But if you’re free and wanna go, RSVP yes and stick to it. The more you stick to your word consistently, the more you’re really loving the people around you. 

This is something I’ve intentionally focused on this year. It’s made such a difference in my personal AND professional life, so I wanted to share with all of you. The Porch made a great podcast about this called “Committed to Keeping Commitments” – check it out!! 

Let’s hold each other accountable in LOVE and help each other bloom. Love y’all! 

Dani